EVERYONE I NEED TO KNOW I MET IN KINDERGARTEN

Everyone I need to know I met in kindergarten.

I sincerely hope that I find deeper meaning in that statement then the words seem to imply. I sincerely hope any reader would look for a deeper meaning.

Those words took me of a sudden while writing to a kindergarten friend on facebook recently.

I really don’t know many details of many of the friends I met in kindergarten.

Maybe I never needed to.

When I was in kindergarten, I didn’t question if I knew them well enough.

I just knew I liked them and that was sufficient.

Popular wisdom might say that we need much deeper relationships than that.

We were only starting out in kindergarten so of course we hadn’t developed depth.

Depth: Being the true meaning of a relationship.

I will attempt to challenge that notion here as I stumble along.

We meet someone. We like what we have in common. We become friends. We find something we don’t agree on. We dislike each other temporarily, but then we recover, and decide that our commonalities make it worth continuing the relationship.

Many years later, if we still are in contact, we may claim to have a deep meaningful relationship.

Maybe we had a childhood sweetheart. We found things in common. Developed a relationship for many years. Got married. Maybe we found things we didn’t like. One day we decided to get divorced. Now we find we don’t like them, or maybe we still do.

How much do we need to know or like about a person before the relationship is anchored in concrete immovable? Is it even important?

Back to the popular wisdom, the deeper the better?

Maybe love is the answer?

Is love based on depth?

Is the love of our parents in the first year based on depth?

Do we love our parents more the second year?

Do we sense when someone loves us?

Do we sense when someone likes us?

Do we sense when someone dislikes us?

I think so.

Does knowing more about a person make us love them more?

Is some love stronger then others?

I have heard that there are different kinds of love, that the different kinds have different depths of meaning.

How can this be?

Is it true?

That is what I am looking for in this writing.

I like to organize my thoughts on paper. I find it, well, more organized than my brain.

It is easier to move the words around, cut, copy, paste, etc. Then the record seems to be more permanent, and I can easily refer back to it. Maybe if I had a memory upgrade this wouldn’t be necessary. Quite possibly, it is an insecurity that causes me to want to share with others what I write. If it is, I sincerely hope that others enjoy my writing in spite of my insecurity, instead of because of. Still if others benefit, I hope I don’t need to benefit just to keep up with them so to speak. I don’t want to be selfish. I have many selfish moments. I am trying to reduce them, believing that selfishness can be a negative that cause suffering.

Back to love!

Maybe love is simply not being selfish.

I am all for simple.

Lets get complicated for a moment:

Lets say that baby boy, has loved his mother for two years, and baby girl has loved her mother for one year.

Does, baby boy love his mother more than baby girl?

Okay how about couple number one: Married 25 years, always been happy together.

Couple number two: Married twenty years, always been happy together.

Which couple is more in love? (I am assuming that couple number one has had more in-depth happy experiences than couple number two).

Is it possible that we choose to love, or not to love, without an in-depth analysis of whether or not we should love?

Is our love based purely on instinct?

Is it a natural instinct to love, or do we learn to love?

What causes us to not love someone?

I suspect that living beings naturally love.

Maybe love is even a good definition for the word living!

Maybe to love is to live!

Maybe we live, because we love to live!

Why then do people not love?

I suspect that as soon as we start to develop, we learn expectations, such as getting fed or not fed. We possibly equate being fed to good, or love, and not being fed to not so good.

Seems fair so far.

Ah, but fairness is debatable.

Okay, we go to kindergarten. Our parents tell us before we go to not pick our nose (sorry). We don’t pick our nose, but some other poor kids parents didn’t tell him, or he didn’t get the message. He picks his nose. We decide we don’t like him.

We get home, and our parents tell us that we should still love him but not like his nose picking. Thankfully, at this point of kindergarten, our parents are teaching forgiveness, and unconditional love.

So maybe forgiveness is unconditional love.

So, we go back to kindergarten, and the same kid hits us, we cry and when we go home our parents tell us to stay away from that kid. Suddenly love is no longer unconditional.

I am not saying that our parents should have said that.

It is just quickly becoming apparent that our love is natural.

We are born because of love. (Love and living being the same thing).

Forgiveness is necessary to love.

Forgiveness is needed because, a person does not intend to not love, but is taught to not love.

A person may be taught to not love, by simply being neglected. A person may be told to not love. A person may be told to be conditional with their love.

If love is so natural, then why would a person teach not loving or neglect to teach unconditional love?

I don’t think people do this purposefully. Otherwise forgiveness wouldn’t exist.

If people don’t do it on purpose, than why do they do it?

Because they have already grown some, and formed opinions and ideas based on their own personal experience as well as others before them.

These ideas easily go astray. Love is actually constant, or it couldn’t exist!

Get it! LOVE IS ACTUALLY CONSTANT OR IT COULDN’T EXIST!!!

If it wasn’t constant; the first person to come along would form an opinion or idea that is in error and the idea or opinion would be passed to generation after generation, and corrupt all of humankind. Well that is happening in a way. But obviously in another way love, still shines through this ignorance! LOVE IS ACTUALLY CONSTANT OR IT COULDN’T EXIST!!!

Forgiveness is the key to unlock the love that is inherent in all living beings!

FORGIVENESS IS THE KEY TO UNLOCK THE LOVE THAT IS INHERENT IN ALL LIVING BEINGS!

So how is it that everyone I need to know I met in kindergarten?

I suspect that even if I ever met only one being, all I would need to know is forgiveness. Forgiveness and love. Forgiveness is love. Hopefully we learn forgiveness before kindergarten.

Love is all we need to know. Love is life. Life is love. Forgiveness is love.

Ignorance is simply not realizing that love is inherent to our existence.

So we want to know more people.

I think if we know love, then we know all people.

Remember, love is life.

So what about depth in relationship and all that?

We can have depth. We can form lots of great ideas and opinions. We can develop many mental and physical ideas. The ideas, opinions and development just need to be based on love. Love and Forgiveness. Forgiveness keeps love, love.

Depth is not a measurement of love. Depth is just a measurement, nothing more.

Manifesting our love in many different ideas, opinions and developments, is enjoyable.

Manifesting our love two years is not better than manifesting our love one year.

We should manifest our love in all years. This is life! Life is love!