Resentment

Resentment comes from being attached to the idea that someone can be right or wrong about something or some idea.
Unattaching or to “let go” is the way to freedom of the mind.
Unattaching is unconditional and is not unlike unconditional love.
The way we have learned to attach (or resent) things over the years is that we learned it a little at a time and sometimes with bigger events very quickly.
We form (really build) ideas, opinions, prejudices, likes, dislikes, etc. based on previous experiences and communication with others.
How can we expect to un-learn a lifetime of things that we deem so important? Why would we want to?
If we recognize our resentment as a problem then we naturally might want to find a solution.
Unfortunately the solution to years of learning something that we now see as a problem can take years to unlearn.
The more effort put in to unlearning a problem the more quickly it can be resolved.
Like most any problem that we encounter, the first step is to recognize that there is a problem.
The second step would be to find out how to fix the problem, and the final step ideally would be to fix the problem.
If a person takes the time (or has the time), much questioning of ones self, of our ideas, where we got them and our motives behind them might be a place to start.
Once an idea like resentment is formed, it is very easy to stick it in a compartment in our brain locked and labeled “fact” or “truth” or “it’s just the way it is”.
And so it will be!
Luckily, people can be more flexible than that.
When I was in my twenties I had a boss tell me “if you don’t bend you will break”. (anyway I liked his point at the time)
So is resentment justified?
That would seem to be the question here or the one that people might give a resounding “YES” to and give it no further thought.
I guess my point here is that maybe all questions AND answers merit further thought.
What might happen if we thought not once but even twice about resenting?
What might happen if we thought not once but even twice about going to war?
What might happen? We might die. We might get hurt etc., etc.
So it seems that FEAR is why we feel the need to form permanent ideas.
It seems that unconditional love or un-attachment would be the reason to let go of things.
Unconditional love might seem foolish to some when put in this context and even a way to get ourselves killed.
Maybe!
My thought is that we all affect each other and we have since we have existed. (My dad’s been dead since 1988 and he still affects me.)
So, maybe we should try to be flexible and vigilant in our thinking and try to affect the world in positive ways so that future generations will be affected in a positive manner.